People are social creatures, and relationships reveal our internal state and thoughts. It’s easy to blame others for our own circumstances and failures. However, wise individuals understand that relationships actually reflect our own state, and often our negative thoughts about others reveal traits within ourselves that we don’t want to admit. The instructions in the book “All the Love You Deserve” focus on various approaches to couples and group therapy, including integrative, emotion-focused, solution-focused, and psychodynamic approaches. Harville Hendrix’s book offers perspectives and tools for enhancing and deepening marital relationships. It emphasizes that a relationship is not a static state but a continuous journey that involves discovering love within oneself and the other person.
In couples and group therapy, the book’s instructions can be applied in the following ways:
#1 Self-awareness: Therapy helps couples or groups to explore themselves more deeply and understand their hidden aspects. This helps build a stronger foundation for the relationship and increases understanding of each other’s needs and emotions.
#2 Communication: The book emphasizes open and honest communication in relationships. In therapy, skills such as active listening and expressing one’s needs clearly and constructively are practiced.
#3 Showing love and acceptance: Therapy encourages couples or groups to show love, appreciation, and acceptance to one another. Small gestures and actions are practiced to strengthen connection and intimacy.
#4 Embracing change: Therapy addresses the significance of change and growth in a relationship. Couples and groups learn to accept that individuals evolve and change over time, which can impact the dynamics of the relationship. Change can be seen as an opportunity for growth and a new kind of connection.
The instructions in the book offer thoughts and perspectives that enrich couples and group therapy and help create deeper understanding and closeness in relationships. These principles can also be applied to other relationships, such as in the workplace or friendships. If you don’t have a romantic relationship, it’s entirely possible to work through your childhood traumas, for example, within your work environment or with a close friend. Quality of life is important for everyone! Relationships provide a great field for healing, growth, and, most importantly, self-reflection. Self-reflection requires acceptance and the right techniques so that we can realize that everyone can grow and become better in all areas of life. Some changes are easier for some than others, and empathy helps us accept that everyone faces difficult and challenging situations in life.
Minja Zeus, a complementary health professional, is a person who was born to resolve conflicting situations. Her experiences of her parents’ divorce, living in multiple blended families throughout her childhood, and constantly moving between two places have shaped her into someone who, already in her first-grade report card, was described as “Minja is the one who provides constructive solutions in conflict and problem situations.” Minja has had to rebuild her self-esteem multiple times. Telemarketing is not a profession that boosts self-esteem, but Minja has successfully pursued it alongside her own business since 2015. I am a living example of how the phoenix must constantly be reborn from the midst of new disasters, and she is ready to share her expertise, perseverance, and motivation with you from one situation to another. In group therapy, it is crucial not to take sides but to strive to understand each individual’s unique situation.